Q. Have you ever wondered what an infertility blog and a ghost town have in common?
A. For better or worse a majority of infertility blogs seem to be abandoned just like a ghost town after a few years.
You've probably noticed this yourself. I love it when I discover a new blog with a nice long list of other bloggers that they follow. Right now I'm a blogging junkie, I'm invested in all of the stories of my fellow bloggers and I like to hear how you're doing. I'm encouraged by the good news and I'm sad about the bad news.
I sometimes come across these blogs, usually they are from about two years ago where the blog itself and most of the links that they've posted have mysteriously stopped updating. Posts stop in June 2012 or November 2012.
I find it encouraging that many of these bloggers - probably over half have had success with building their families. They have moved on, but their blog is like an abandoned ghost town. There are all of these leftover posts that you can poke around in like the empty outbuildings of a ghost town.
Some of the posts are sad, some of them are haunting and all of them are filled with very moving life stories.
We found a circle of support here on the internet. We shared our stories and listened to the stories of others. We gave and we took and then we moved on.
I'm not sure how I feel about all of this. It makes me kind of sad. I don't know what I'd do without you girls. How do you move on from such a trying experience that completely changed who you are? How do you reintegrate back into the "real world?"
How do you leave the ghost town behind? I think it's always going to be a part of who I am. I'll never forget that there really are places like this and I'll understand part of what created them.
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I tell myself that what is means, is that one way or another, there is an ability to parent and mother, as long as you are able to look beyond the way you want it and embrace the possible. It gives me a lot of hope that this ending is there for all of us. When I was getting married, and for maybe a year after I got married, I used to check StyleMePretty and OnceWed every day, religiously. I haven't look at either in three years, but I do look at infertility blogs daily. Maybe one day we will all look back and this will be a wrinkle in time, a season in life. Except perhaps for the few friends that I have made and connected to via our blogs- I hope we will still be in touch or have some meaning to each other.
ReplyDeleteI have thought that before, too. They are like a snapshot of time, and I often wonder what became of the author.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great analogy! I come across blogs all the time where to blog just stops. It makes me sad that they've stopped writing, but I do find comfort in reading about their stories.
ReplyDeleteI like this post:-) I, too, have read soooo many blogs of other women. In fact, that's why I wanted to begin mine because I saw so many abandoned ones. I hope that they went on to have lots of children and have no time to blog, but seriously, I wish there was just a final closing page on the ones that seem to have no ending. I want to know what happened to those people! Blogging is such a great resource of info and support- I feel we are lucky to have this medium. Thinking of you:)
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